|PTypes - Personality Types|
|PTypes||A Brief Theory of Bad Character||Self-Confident Vices|
|Irrational Need to Avoid
(Oldham, pg. 109)
|for others to make everyday decisions for them; advice and reassurance from others||having to make everyday decisions; having to rely solely on their own judgment||when making decisions, are happy to seek out others' opinions and to follow their advice||has difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others|
|for others to assume responsibiluty for major areas of their lives||having to be responsible for themselves||assumes the less dominant, more passive caretaking role; prefer to rely on the judgment of the central person in their lives||needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of their lives|
|support and approval from others||losing the support or approval of others||are careful to promote good feelings between themselves and the important people in their lives; to promote harmony, tend to be polite, agreeable, and tactful||has difficulty expressing disagreement with others because of fear of loss of support or approval|
|to follow the lead of others||initiating projects or doing things on their own||would rather follow than lead; are cooperative and respectful of authority and institutions; easily rely on others, and take direction well||has difficulty initiating projects or doing things on their own|
|nurturance and support||being without nurturance and support||are thoughtful of others and good at pleasing them; will endure personal discomfort to do a good turn for the key people in their lives||goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others, to the point of volunteering to do things that are unpleasant|
|for a significant other||being alone; not being taken care of||prefer the company of one or more people to being alone||feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone because of exaggerated fear of being unable to care for themselves|
|relationships: care and support||not having a relationship with a significant other||relationships provide life's meaning for them; even after a painful loss of someone around whom their life was centered, they are able to form new meaningful bonds||urgently seeks another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends|
|to be taken care of: advice, reassurance, and support||being left to care for themselves||thoroughly dedicated to relationships in their lives; place the highest value on sustained relationships; respect the institution of marriage, as well as unofficial avowals of commitment; and work hard to keep their relationships going||is unrealistically preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of themselves|
|praise and approval||criticism and disapproval, especially from significant others||feel personally responsible for things that go wrong in a relationship; take it upon themselves to make things better||is easily hurt by criticism or disapproval|
A vice is a firmly held false belief of the value of something. Vices dispose us to value as good or bad things not in our power, things external to our moral character. But it is irrational and prideful to desire, or to desire to avoid, to fear, externals. The irrational needs, or vices, of the Devoted type are based on particular false values.
All of the vices are rooted in pride, that firmly held false belief that we can provide ourselves with happiness by obtaining certain external 'goods' (cf. DeYoung, pp. 38-39).
If we are in the habit of making false value-judgments of particular externals, we should learn to bear the things falsely valued as bad, things for which we have an "irrational need to avoid," and forbear the things falsely valued as good, things for which we have an "irrational need." "Bear and Forbear" - Epictetus
Irrational Strategies for Obtaining Happiness
A Brief Theory of Bad Character
Rebecca DeYoung (2009). Glittering Vices: A New Look at the Seven Deadly Sins and Their Remedies. Grand Rapids, MI: Brazos Press.
John M. Oldham and Lois B. Morris (1995). The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do. New York: Bantam. Oldham and Morris list the key characteristics not of an idealized image, but of a style of normal functioning.
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